Let’s get personal
Today is world mental health day.
I am not sure why there are so many stigmas around seeing a shrink.
Lots of really famous and successful people I know have seen therapists at some point in their lives, and I think we are far beyond that point where we judge it as weakness when one seeks help.
You take your car to get an MOT, service your boiler, pay your personal trainer to keep you fit and strong, but how much time do you actually spend on working on your mind, soul and inner happiness?
Don’t we all have issues that keep on coming back? Questions which keep on returning? An endless cycle of behaviour and action/reaction and sometimes it is just good to finally deal with it.
I am a cynic and I have a tendency to put my nose up at all this new age stuff, but whatever you do to take time for yourself and your own development, let it be meditation or mindfulness surely it can’t be bad for you.
I have decided to go and see a shrink after my last big breakup 18 months ago, to make myself stronger and clearer on what I want in relationships and what I don’t want.
I was more vulnerable than ever before after discovering I was surprisingly pregnant at 46 and then having a miscarriage, something else nobody really talks about. But as soon as it happens to you everyone comes forward and tells you their own story and it helps. It helps to know you are not alone and why not share it with other women?
I love seeing John my therapist, I now only go every 3 weeks to unload, share and get a completely neutral opinion on my shenanigans.
He has helped me look at my own behaviour from different angles, understand myself better, voice my needs in a more constructive manner and look at love in a new way.
Would love to hear from you about your own experiences.
Dear Anna, thank you for sharing! Yes, it helps. I am finally dealing with four miscarriages seeing a shrink. I can only recommend doing so as I am now ready to move forward and let all the pain no longer rule my present. All the best for you! Love, Nicola
Anna, I had no idea you miscarried at 46. I cannot begin to tell you how sorry I am that ever took place. I cannot imgaine how you must have felt. I’m glad you had – and still have – the courage to keep moving forward. Cowards blame others for their pain and hardship abd that isn’t you – you’re better than that, Anna. I commend you for sharing such a painful experience and the courage to move forward. Chin up, Anna; you’re an inspiration to many – including me.
Beautifully expressed, Anna. I completely believe that, whatever is going on for people, reaching out is the beginning. of healing.
We are so complex and carry not only our own traumas and confusion, but also stuff that goes back generationally .
Still think of you and the loss of an unplanned baby later in life and all the depth of emotion surrounding that. Sending you love always, beauty, big, warm and radiant love.
Diana x x